The Lost Art of Keeping a Secret

What do people mean when they say 'discreet'?

Surely anyone reading this who has used the Internet to hook up with men (I don't know if women say the same thing in their ads, I haven't looked at enough to say) will have seen this.

I guess the easiest thing to do would be to ask the people who put this, but I've never been the most direct person. I assume it's a sex/hook up thing. The way I take it is that you aren't going to be overt about what you're there to do. Like not mincing into the hotel lobby in the campest manner and most fabulous outfit you have and fawning all over the guy when you see them. And not going around telling anyone who will listen to you about the guy you just slept with in great detail. I'd consider myself discreet, using these definitions. (Maybe this blog is pushing the latter part, though.)

Mostly, I wonder if I should put this in mine. And for this blog. I don't really want to go into too much detail about the guys I've been with. I use initials made up of their name and some word to describe them (place they lived, job title, etc.). Keeping any personal details to a minimum. This blog is supposed to be more self-centred, after all.

I might find some way to write it in to my bio online. If I've got it right, it's something that I apply is most areas of my life. And if it gets me laid, all the better.

It's also something I wonder about with this blog. I don't really want it seem like I'm betraying the trust of the people who I've been with. So I try to keep things rather vague. Don't go into much detail about how they look, what they're lives are like, use actual names. This was about being open about myself, not exposing the lives of others.

There's still a lot of aspects on online dating that I need to get used to. Like when people stop replying to you when you message or chat with them. Especially chat, which I've only done once. I had no idea what was going on there, and just thought it was people being rude. And... I still do think it's rude, honestly. At least a "sorry, this isn't going to work out" would suffice. Just stopping the whole conversation dead, especially when they were the ones who initiated it, gets to me a bit. But I have probably appeared exactly the same in the past, at least in regards to messages I've been sent. But most of the time, I've just not been in the mood or state of mind to be meeting people. It's not like I'm off messaging other guys but not this one, I'm usually not answering anyone. Maybe when things have changed and settled down in my life more, I will stop doing that so much.