Mobile: decisions to make

I have spoken to S.J. for about three months now, but only met him for the first time the other day. Met as in innocently, we had coffee/tea and a bit of a walk around town. But he seems to really like me, in a more serious way than just 'I want to fuck you'. Even though there is that too. And to be honest, I like him a lot too.

But that leaves me with the question of what to do about J.L. if this other thing is going to lead somewhere. I don't know if it will, but there is that possibility. With J.L., while he seems like a nice enough man, it's mostly sexual overtones. I've not met him yet, since he lives over an hour away by train. But compared with S.J. conversation does then to stick to sexual themes.

I clumsily brought up the topic of sleeping with more men with him, and he said that I was free to do that but he wouldn't hang around waiting for me.

I've missed chances with others before because I didn't take the initiative and grab the chance when it was there. And while I had no guarantee that anything would have happened there, you will never know if you don't act. So I would like to take that chance this time with S.L. and see what develops.

But that leaves me in the position of having to work out what to do with J.L. now. I suppose the easiest thing would be to say sorry but I'm seeing someone now, but that isn't feeling so easy. I could say that but I don't know if that's the case yet. And in the meantime, I don't know what to do. Ignoring him is rude, but saying "I'm thinking of seeing someone else" is awkward. Maybe needlessly so, he's not my boyfriend or anything. Not really anything right now. I suppose I could ask S.J. soon if he's like to go out properly and then just bend the truth slightly.