Mobile: owning a 'boi'

I mentioned J.L. briefly before. He's the guy who likes kidnapping roleplay. Thinking back on the first messages we sent, it was pretty innocuous. I just thought he was joking around when he mentioned ransoms and someone taking him away.

But it's not a joke. He's pretty serious about it. Would love to have a whole scene play out where he's bound up and gagged.

Tonight he mentioned seeing some rugby lad out and mentioned that he was wearing a vest (and bondage mask, some kind of university night out by the sounds of it). I said I might have a bit of a thing for vests. I meant on other guys, but he suggested incorporating one into this roleplay. I said I'd need to work on my muscles (Rugby Lad was apparently quite fit and I really am not at the moment). And that was when he said it.

"I want you to own me. I want you to own me and be your boi."

'Boi' threw me a bit, jokingly asked if that was possible with him being older than me. But it's psychological, he said. I always associated it with young submissive twinks and thus lost interest whenever the term arose. I'm not really a big fan of the term either way, but I'm also not one of roleplay but I'll at least give it a go. If I'm not that affected by it and he's happy with it, there's no harm, is there?

The definition of what it means to be 'owned' matched what I thought. Bound and gagged (his big thing), fucked, made to blow me regularly, used for my sexual pleasure and the roleplay. Also to act a bit 'dom' with him in public. Make it clear that I'm the alpha male, and he's my bitch. How that's done is still a bit of a mystery to me.

I never really put much stock into words like 'alpha' before, never considered them... well, worth considering. I only really have a cartoonish image of a stereotypical 'alpha male' in my mind, but that might be more to do with how I relate to the word more than the concept itself.

I'd wanted to try out bondage and see what it's like since talking with J.C. ages ago, although that was on the other end. And lately I've felt more like a 'top'. Instead of imagining having sex with a guy and being the passive one, I think about fucking them instead. So the idea of fucking him and having him suck my cock is appealing. I did sort of spun the idea in my head to involving scenarios like getting another bloke over and both of us fucking him from the 'used for [my] sexual pleasure' part. Maybe that's going too far/thinking too much with my dick.

It's just the 'dom' aspect left now. In a way this plays into the previous post I made. When I said that completely changing yourself is easy in theory. Changing from a docile and meek character to an 'alpha male' is a big change. And to be honest, not one I have any particular reservations about trying on. Playing that role, so to speak. 'Fake it until you make it' is used a fair bit in reference to confidence and self-esteem training. The idea that you can obtain traits by acting as if you have them already in the meantime. Maybe trying to act all alpha and dominant will eventually lead to it coming more naturally. Which can't hurt anything.

But first he wants a Valentine's card. I have never had to get one for anyone before. And I will be late with it now. But is it alpha to tell him to not whine and accept it whenever it gets there? Or is that just rudeness? I am mixing the two up.